A Nigerian man living in the UK has reportedly called off his wedding plans due to an exorbitant traditional bride price list presented by his fiancée’s family.
The emotional story, shared by social media user Princess Adeola on her X handle, highlights the challenges posed by certain cultural practices that may discourage potential suitors.
The man’s heartbreak, fueled by financial pressure, has sparked widespread debate about the expectations placed on marriage in certain communities.
The bride price list, meant to honor the bride’s family, included a variety of items such as drinks, livestock, clothing, and cash gifts for extended family members, totaling approximately N3.5 million.
Despite his deep commitment to the woman and his willingness to support her education abroad, the man was devastated to learn that his fiancée supported her family’s financial demands, citing the economic difficulties currently facing Nigeria.
Princess Adeola shared the details of the situation: “There’s this guy on my platform who met a lady here in Nigeria while he’s in the UK. Despite the challenges of a long-distance relationship, he was committed to her.”
“He even sought my advice, and I encouraged him to go for it. But yesterday, he reached out to me, distraught, after receiving a bride price list from her family totaling N3.5 million.”
The emotional toll on the man was evident as he expressed his frustration over the situation. “His pain wasn’t just the list itself but the fact that the woman he loves supports her family’s demands, claiming everything is expensive in Nigeria,” Princess Adeola said.
The man, in his despair, likened the demands to “selling a child” and questioned how a marriage could start under such financial strain. He further expressed that his desire to invest in the woman’s future abroad should have been more significant than the financial expectations placed on him.
“I can’t give up because I have a mother and two brothers,” he said, illustrating the emotional conflict he was enduring.
Princess Adeola continued: “Why should anyone demand such an outrageous amount just for marriage? Doesn’t that set the tone for the man to treat her like he ‘bought’ her? It’s a shame, and I hope women learn from this. This man had genuine plans to take her abroad and pay for her education. Now, because of greed, the family has lost a good man.”
Devastated by the situation, the man informed Adeola that he had decided to no longer pursue the relationship. “He told me yesterday he’s no longer interested and plans to block her. He said he would cry, heal, and move on with his life. I feel bad for the lady—if only she had a more understanding family and stood up for herself. She’s about to lose a good man without even knowing it,” Adeola said.
This turn of events highlights the complex balance between tradition and modern expectations, as financial demands in marriage continue to shape relationships and, in some cases, lead to heartbreaking decisions.
– Vanguard
